This morning, I would like to focus on life’s biggest regret…
So that you can avoid waking up years from now feeling this yourself.
This was actually discovered in a study conducted by Karl Pillemer, a professor at Cornell University, who interviewed more than a thousand Americans over the age of 65 and all from different economic, educational, and occupational backgrounds. In the study, Karl asked them to share the most valuable lessons they’d learned, advice on topics ranging from family and children to money and careers.
Overwhelmingly, the focus wasn’t on what they did, but what they didn’t do.
Of a thousand people in the later stages of life, what dominated their advice on the lessons of life was regret.
One man in his late eighties was asked:
“If you could come back and live the life of anyone, who would you want to come back as?”
“I would want to come back as the man I could have been, but never was.”
He went on to say,
“This time I’d act with more courage.
I wouldn’t allow my fear to turn me away from opportunities I didn’t take.
I’d risk more; I’d take the chances I wish I had.
I’d allow myself to fail more, love more, and laugh more.
This time I’d be sure to live more.”
Don’t wait until you’re eighty and filled with regret.
Be the person you “could have been” now.
Action for today:
Grab a pen and piece of paper.
Now, imagine that you are the hero or heroine of the movie that is your life.
What characteristics or traits would that person embody?
Would your hero or heroine be…
-the one that shines the brightest in a room of people?
-the leader of the pack?
-an inventor of great ideas?
-the most loving parent a child can conceive of?
-a compassionate humanitarian?
-a bold risk taker?
Whatever you desire for your hero, write it down now.
Then, start becoming that person now.
Your Daily Mentor,